There's a lot going on in our lives, and different opinions come at us from different directions. So it's easy to lose sight of what makes you, you, and get caught up in the mob.
However, spending time alone with your thoughts might help you reconnect with your values. Williams says: “Muting the noise can be a great way to connect with yourself and gain clarity about your path.”
"When you're talking to someone you care about, check in with yourself," Theran advises. "Are you ignoring what's going on in your life?" Or are you communicating honestly and being genuine to yourself?"
Consider what you could say instead of putting up a 'front' or not revealing how you genuinely feel. Also, think about why you aren't being really honest.
According to Theran, "being authentic is a complicated process." It can be difficult to identify your own self if you've been modifying your behaviours or sentiments to fit in with others.
"If you struggle with being or knowing your true self, therapy may be beneficial," Theran continues.
We sometimes hide our true selves because we're terrified of being exposed. “Some people find it hard or scary to open up,” says Theran. She adds that "that vulnerability can be rewarding." It's a risk worth taking."
If you feel safer with some people than others, consider first letting down your walls with them. Positive reactions may give you the courage to be your true self more often.
Consider "what and who you invest your time in," recommends Williams. Do specific people or activities "align with your core values," she wonders, or are you making a commitment to them "based on external expectations?"
Consider why you put on a 'front' or pretend to appreciate certain friends or activities — and whether there is anything you could do to be more yourself.
When you have a genuine connection with someone, it is easy to be authentic. Take the time to actually get to know them and assist them in better understanding you.
"In relationships, ask questions," suggests Theran. "Try to go beyond the surface and form meaningful connections with those around you."