Changing bad habits is difficult and might make you feel hopeless. Yet transformation is achievable with the appropriate tools.
"Instead of attempting to quit, pay attention to the unmet needs causing the undesirable behaviour. Do you crave solace, solitude, companionship, approval, or adventure?"
"Be alert and inquiring about undesirable actions without passing judgement. They shed light on your wants and preferences. Change starts right here."
You will be more successful if you are more precise and explicit about the change you want to make.
When attempting to establish a new habit, list all the excuses your mind offers you. "I'll start tomorrow" is one of my favourites.
Thoughts that promote your aim should take the place of your negative, self-defeating thoughts.
Change your perspective by saying "No, NOW!" instead of "I'll start tomorrow." Question yourself, "What can I do to feel better now?" rather than, "Today's not good."
To successfully stop your unhealthy habits, you must first understand why you do them. Every action fulfils a need.
"Have long-term emotional neglect? Reconnecting with yourself takes time. Look into unmet needs. Emotions are reliable guides for change."
Make manageable improvements by setting tiny goals. Start with something doable, like eating a salad for lunch, because the brain pays attention to repeated behaviours.
The logical portion of the brain is activated when desired outcomes are mentally practised. Rapid change is facilitated by vivid imagination and emotions.