Those with a secure attachment style are emotionally healthy and have meaningful and long-lasting relationships. As such, here are four signs he has a secure attachment style.
1. He is able to regulate his emotions within your relationship.
Basically, he takes ownership of his own feelings. Now, this isn’t to say he doesn’t seek out emotional support as needed or let you know when something you did bothers him.
He absolutely does, as communication is a vital component of emotional intelligence. However, he understands that he is the one ultimately responsible for regulating his emotions, not you.
2. He isn’t afraid to be vulnerable (and isn’t stand-offish when you’re vulnerable either).
Emotions don’t scare him, whether those are his own (see point one) or yours. He is emotionally available and able to provide emotional support when you need him.
3. He is comfortable when you both need alone time.
He doesn’t feel insecure when you go out with your friends, spend time with your family, or just to take a minute to yourself. He isn’t jealous easily and doesn’t question your intentions or honesty.
He is confident in himself and knows he has value and something to offer. He sees himself in a positive light. That said, he also sees others as worthy as well.
He is warm, friendly, and not suspicious of others. He generally believes people are good and have honest intentions.